58 BM stories 

BM-01 A businessman in Denver recounts ... 
"Suddenly I had this new self-confidence. I didn't have to hate myself for  being gay.”

BM-02 A Gay Man Speaks Out 

BM-03 Alcide 
"I felt much closer to the people I slept with than to my mother and father."

BM-04 Amanitus 
"It was very important for my coming out as a homosexual and my gay development." 

BM-05 Ambar recounts ... the naked play 
"He became my second very, very, very best friend and so began a wonderful, loving relationship. I still adore that man :-)" 

BM-06 André & Peter  
Both André and Peter agree that it was André who always took the initiative to become sexual. Otherwise, it would never have happened. 

BM-07 Anthony & Pierre 
"Pierre always respected Anthony's boundaries and never forced him to do anything. 
“I was in no way traumatized. [...] On the contrary, this man has given me many things, such as self-confidence."

BM-08 Bastiaan and his gym teacher 
"I loved it. It had to remain our secret and nobody was to know about it. No, of course not! I didn't want anyone to know about it either." 

BM-09 Bill - Five to ten 
We enjoyed each others' company, sharing our thoughts and ideas on different topics, and setting our goals. [...] 
I told the judge that I consented to our relationship and what went along with it. He said that I was too young to make a "mature" decision.

BM-10 Björn & Jan 
He remarks that if one wishes to speak of seduction in this relationship, it was him who was the seducing party. 

BM-11 Boxing instructor 
It gave the boy a lot of pleasure and he encouraged the instructor as much as possible.

BM-12 Brian 
I was not molested. I was loved and I feel I am better for it.

BM-13 Burt 
"During his 14^th year he met an industrial representative who took him to a motel. He liked this adult who was approximately 40 years of age. The man took Burt to dinner, bought him clothing, and gave him pocket money. They continued to meet many times, even after Burt married at the age of eighteen."

BM-14 Camping trip 
[...] incredibly erotic, tremendous release, very pleasurable.

BM-15 Chris 
"The moral of the story is this: I feel like the only real crime in this was the way I was treated by the authorities." 

BM-16 Chris 2 
"It was nothing like how society says it is. I did what came natural to me, and nothing was forced on me, I actually felt love for him." 

BM-17 Dennis - The most positive he has ever had
He saw himself as having the upper hand, because he felt he had control over the man, who went to great lengths to fulfill his wishes. 

BM-18 Denver 
"Our data from a large number of samples demonstrate that positive occurrences are just as frequent as negative ones, and so both types should be acknowledged. To do otherwise is a distortion of reality."

BM-19 - Enhanced quality 
“He enhanced the quality of my youth, and his influence will likely enhance the quality of my entire adult life."

BM-20- Erik - I think it gave me an advantage over my peers.
"I knew beforehand that he was never going to hurt me. I could trust him 100%. He was like a father or a friend to me. "

BM-21 Gay bar 
One man, at fourteen years old, researched the location of gay bars and met a man ... 

BM-22 Gently and respectfully 
After this experience, the boy visited the man very often, almost every day. 

BM-23 He was very loving and caring 
"I think the age of consent laws should be changed in the United States to allow responsible adolescent males to have relationships with older men. Notice the word responsible."

BM-24 I fell in love with him 
"Eventually I fell in love with him; knew I was gay but did not broadcast this; I was curious because of the age difference." 

BM-25 Ivo 
"I never felt like a victim."
"Everything happened the way I wanted it to happen, I never did anything I did not want to do. There was [...] tenderness." 

BM-26 James - It built his personality 
He saw the relationship as very positive and said it built his personality (e.g., greater self-confidence) and influenced many of his tastes (e.g., an appreciation for literature). 

BM-27 James Dubro 
“[Socrates] is extremely loyal to the boys he has had relationships with,” says Dubro. “And a lot of the boys could not have survived without his assistance."

BM-28 John 
Brandon: Did you feel, throughout your relationship, that there was any kind of power differential? 
John: Power differential? Do you mean, like, could Malcolm manipulate me? 
Brandon: Right, that. Or did you feel in any way subservient? 
John: No, I wouldn’t say so. There wasn’t a power differential, though there was a wisdom differential. I understood that, and I liked it — I didn’t expect to know as much about people or the world as Malcolm did, and neither did he. But he took me seriously, anyway. 
Brandon: And you weren’t manipulated? 
John: No, I don’t think so. He could have manipulated me if he tried, maybe, but that’s true in almost every relationship. Someone has the ability to manipulate the other person. That’s not what’s dangerous: It’s actually using that ability that causes problems. Besides, I could manipulate Malcolm, too — I was younger and could get away with a lot. I probably could have wrapped him around my finger, but I didn’t need to, because he gave me most of what I wanted anyway. That’s the difference between exploitation and love.

BM-29 John from Australia - He loved the young man
He was proud to be seen with the older male, saw him as his protector, and saw the intimacy they had as the highlight of his life.

BM-30 Joop 
"Jos was a father, friend and brother for me, all at the same time. [...] 
Jos never went too far; if there was something I did not want to, he stopped immediately. The love this man gave me, the feeling to be loved, was such an overwhelming, beautiful thing." 

BM-31 Kadoedel 
Kadoedel can't remember any negative episodes or traumas that would have affected his later years.

BM-32 Karel Eykman 
In 1982, Dutch author Karel Eykman published a poem about the relationship he had as a young boy with poet Jan Hanlo (1912-1969).

BM-33 Kirk Read 
Read finally found that longed-for relationship, at thirteen years old, with an adult neighbor named “Rich,” which, he attests, “saved my life.” He feels that this, and other intergenerational relationships in his youth, greatly contributed to his sexual development, and goes into some detail on the subject. 

BM-34 Kurt 
34 years later, Kurt is still grateful for the wonderful time he spent with him.

BM-35 Linca 
"Then at fourteen, my neighbor AF did with me in his bedroom and bath what he had been wanting to do with me since I was eight years old. We are friends to this day."

BM-36 Living proof 
"Where on earth do some people get the idea that every minor would be harmed by such a thing!!! I'm the living proof that it is not true."

BM-37 Lots of love 
The (former) boy is married now and has shared his positive experiences with his wife. He believes the pedophile relationship served as a good introduction to his adult love life. 

BM-38 Loved and in love 
"I was excited, was loved and in love, got affection, but was not prepared for sex."

BM-39 Mailman 
"He was very forward, connected with me, and told me how hot I was. Talked about our backgrounds."

BM-40 Maurits Reijnen 
"After I met Richard, everything changed. I got calm, didn't wet my bed anymore. He was also the one who discovered my musical talents and he taught me to listen to music of a kind I normally would have never encountered. He stimulated my learning, algebraic and reading skills and I became the best pupil of my class. "

BM-41 Nathan - He was the “conductor” - He [Nathan] controlled the sexual interactions.
While still a boy, he had several other sexual relations with men, all of which he viewed as very positive.

BM-42 Neighbor 
The participant did not feel coerced or hurt and did not feel it was sexual abuse "because I seduced the neighbor." 

BM-43 No abuse 
"[... He] opposed the label of abuse." 

BM-44 No victim of abuse 
It is easy to understand why such people never get in touch with abuse counseling agencies, because they really don't need such help. That's how such centers get a completely one-sided view of so-called victims of abuse. 

BM-45 On the farm 
I consented to the sexual friendship and have always to this very day looked back on it as something benevolent.

BM-46 Peter 
Ferdi never did anything Peter did not want to. They always clicked and if Peter did not agree with anything, he just told him. He always liked the sex a lot and felt content and protected.

BM-47 Philip 
It was very good and there was equally, if not more, stimulation from the intellectual side than the physical side.' 

BM-48 Roland 
"I do not at all believe that I suffered any harm from this relationship. Quite the contrary, Patrick helped me." 

BM-49 Ronald 
During the following four years, mutual masturbation and fellatio occurred at least weekly between the two. They became fond of each other. 

BM-50 Science teacher 
"I practically had to force sex on him because he was afraid about losing his job."

BM-51 Sergio 
'I think I am a better person because of what happened to me.' (Written by Marina Fontanascura in 2011)

BM-52 Stefan 
Stefan is convinced that his relationship with Ferdi had no negative aspects. He stresses that his relationship should not be seen as a surrogate for the insufficient parental skills of his father and mother; it was a goal in itself.

BM-53 Stephan 
Stephan decided to run from home, and ended up at Patrick's place. 
A social worker agreed to this situation and the boy stayed there for three months. 

BM-54 The attic and the waiter 

"I regard these contacts I used to have as very positive for my development. I would not have wanted to miss them".

BM-55 Turning point 
"I regard this man, this relationship as a turning point because I was never the same after knowing him for two years - I was more in tune with myself after that ..."

BM-56 Victor 
One rainy afternoon, Roberto told Victor that he used to have erotic experiences with boys. 
Although at first Victor felt confused about this confession, his friendship with Roberto went beyond all doubts or bad thoughts.

BM-57 Wim van de Braam 
“When I was young, I had a relationship with an adult man, although I need to add that I already knew I was gay when I was thirteen. [...] I never got a negative feeling about it."