Overview of articles about
Women & pedophilia
Ipce Magazine # 2, July 2008 -
Theme: women and 'pedophilia'
Everyone you know was a stranger at one time. There is always a risk that the
next new person you meet will not be friendly to you but the reward that comes
from giving people a chance is worth it.
Barbach, Lonnie Garfield, Bringing
up Children Sexually
Children's sexual exploration is like all other areas of exploration. For
the child it is a way of learning about her environment and how to make a place
for herself within it. Exploration includes urinating while standing up like a
boy, wearing make-up like mother, playing doctor with other boys and girls down
the street, and exploring sexual feelings with a girlfriend. Physical and loving
relationships between two or more girls or two or more boys is a very common and
natural part of the growing up process. It does not mean that the child is
heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual. Each child will have the chance to choose
a sexual orientation later on in life. This experimentation is a part of the
development process for many children and not a cause for alarm or worry. One
should try not to have the child feel abnormal or ashamed about the expression
of budding sexual feelings.
Blasius, Mark, Sexual
Revolution and the Liberation of Children: An Interview With Kate Millett
A sexual revolution begins with the emancipation of women, who are the chief
victims of patriarchy, and also with ending of homosexual oppression. Part of
the patriarchal family structure involves the control of the sexual life of
children; indeed, the control of children totally. Children have virtually no
rights guaranteed by law in our society and besides, they have no money which,
in a money economy, is one of the most important sources of their oppression.
Certainly, one of children's essential rights is to express themselves sexually,
probably primarily with each other but with adults as well. So the sexual
freedom of children is an important part of a sexual revolution.
E., An Historical Background, The NAMBLA Bulletin, Vol. 4, No. 2
(March, 1983), Pg. 1-9.
Slightly over a century ago, a new and hitherto unknown kind of aggression began
to arise: the aggression against people who love children and want to express
their love for them with bodily tenderness.
Califia, Pat, The Culture of Radical Sex, 1994
Or: It Is Always Right to Rebel
Public Sex represents the bulk of my nonfiction work from
1979 to the present. That's a decade and a half of fuming and fussing about
sexual repression and censorship, [...]
The subtitle of this book, The Culture of Radical Sex, raises a
definitional question. By “radical sex,” I do not simply mean sex which
differs from the “norm” of heterosexual, vanilla, male-dominant
intercourse. [...] But being a sex radical means being defiant as well as
deviant. It means being aware that there is something unsatisfying and
dishonest about the way sex is talked about (or hidden) in daily life. It
also means questioning the way our society assigns privilege based on
adherence to its moral codes, and in fact makes every sexual choice a matter
Outlaws v. The Sex Police
“Sexual Outlaws v. The Sex Police” deals with age-of-consent laws,
the state's attempt to control solicitation and public sex, the results of
then-President Ronald Reagan's Meese Commission on pornography, and the
implications of narcotics laws and public policy for IV drug users and the
AIDS pandemic. From time to time, our government declares war on nearly
every aspect of libidinal expression, so of course it would have been
possible to address the issue of the social control of sexuality and other
pleasures by looking at a dozen other topics. But these four battlegrounds
are keys to understanding how and why cops and politicians go after vice.
Age of Consent: The Great Kiddy-Porn Panic of '77
Culturally induced schizophrenia allows parents to make sentimental
speeches about the fleeting innocence of childhood and the happiness of
years unburdened by carnal lust—and then exhaust themselves policing the
sex lives of their children. Children are celibate because their parents
prevent them from playing with other little kids or adults. They are shy
because they are not allowed to go naked any longer than is absolutely
necessary to take a bath. They are not innocent; they are ignorant, and that
ignorance is deliberately created and maintained by parents who won't answer
questions about sex and often punish their children for being bold enough to
ask. This does not make sex disappear. The erotic becomes a vast, unmapped
wilderness whose boundaries are clearly delineated by averted eyes. Sex
becomes the thing not seen, the word not spoken, the forbidden impulse, the
action that must be denied.
Aftermath of the Great Kiddy-Porn Panic of '77
Boy-lovers and lesbians who have young lovers are the only people
offering a hand to help young women and men cross the difficult terrain
between straight society and the gay community. They are not child
molesters. The child abusers are teachers, therapists, cops, and parents who
force their stale morality onto the young people in their custody. Instead
of condemning pedophiles for their involvement with lesbian and gay youth,
we should be supporting them. They need us badly. Forty years in prison is a
long, long time. Only a very sad society with some very sick attitudes
toward sex could think such a sentence is just. Forty years for what?
For experiencing sexual pleasure? When the capacity to have orgasms is
present at six months of age and possibly even earlier? God help us, it's a
wonder any of us manage to feel love or make love with training like that.
Pedophilia, and Children's Rights
Minors who are given the power to say “no” to being sexually used by
an abusive parent or relative are also going to assume the right to say
“yes” to other young people and adults whom they desire. You can't
liberate children and adolescents without disrupting the entire hierarchy of
adult power and coercion and challenging the hegemony of antisex
fundamentalist religious values.
Teachers Loving Their Students - Some quotes and clippings from the
1) Female Teachers Accused Of Sex With Male Students Woman In
Tennessee Faces 28 Counts - NBC10, 9 Feb 2005
2) Tenn. Teacher Charged With Sexual Battery - CNN News 2 Feb 2005
3) Abuse cases face double standard - USA Today, February 11, 2005 - By
4) Florida teacher sentenced to probation, counseling - Courttv.com - February
Global, The, Woman Who Had Baby With 14-Year-Old Boy Gets Probation;
Oct 11, 2006
Dawn Fisher, the 33-year-old Swanton woman who gave birth to a 14-year-old boy's baby, was sentenced Tuesday to five years in
community control -- with no jail time. Even Judge James Bates admitted there's a double standard when men and women commit the
interview with -, Paidika, 1991
Heidi is an attractive Danish woman of 24, a mixture of shyness and tomboyish
behavior; slim, blond, with an intense interest in the world. The interview took
place in her house in Copenhagen, in the fall of 1990.
Heidi: When I was thirteen I wasn't particularly interested in school,
just going there like everybody else. I was a bit fast, a tomboy. I liked to
party and have fun.
One day our teacher was sick and we got a new substitute teacher. She was cute
and very charming; rather young too, at least in my mind. I think she was 28.
She had a strong personality. The whole class talked about her; the boys were
madly in love with her, and I fell in love with her too.
Banning censorship, Salon.com.
First Amendment attorney and author Marjorie Heins argues that obscenity
laws do children more harm than good.
What, exactly, is material that causes "harm to minors"? Is it
"Huckleberry Finn" or the work of Maya Angelou? Violent video
games or R-rated movies? Graphic sexual content or comprehensive sex
Actually, as Heins found out, all of the above have been suppressed in the
name of protecting children, despite the fact, she says, that social science
has failed to provide convincing evidence that exposure to sexual or violent
content has any negative impact on minors whatsoever.
Heins decided to trace the history of American obscenity laws to find the
roots of the "harm to minors" argument. The result is "Not in
Front of the Children: 'Indecency,' Censorship, and the Innocence of
Youth," a book that chronicles the ideological and political
underpinnings of censorship from Plato to the Victorians to the present day.
Higonnet, Anne, Conclusions
Based on Observation, The Yale Journal of criticism, 9.1, 1996
Childhood has become sacrosanct. Americans place a high value on child hood not
only because we care about how actual adults treat actual children, but also
because we freight childhood so heavily with ideals. Once upon a time, the
values of innocence, purity, and nature could be variously located. Now we only
seem able to find them in what we imagine to be the beleaguered bastion of
childhood. If natural pure innocence is equated with a complete absence of
sexuality--as it commonly is now in the United States--then sexual abuse of
children violates the ultimate social taboo. From there it takes one step to
blame child pornography. And one step more to censorship. Two dangerous steps.
[...] To me, the Neils look parentally erotic. To me--and I know I am
speaking personally--they represent my maternal passion for my son's body. How
many times have I stared adoringly at him, caressed him, kissed him, hugged him,
inhaled his infant breath like the smell of life? I long for him physically when
we are apart, to hold him close is bliss. During the first years of his life I
spent most of my time with him caring for his body: feeding him, cleaning him,
rocking him to sleep--not out of obligation but with love.
Leahy, Terry, Negotiating Stigma: Approaches to
Intergenerational Sex, PhD thesis.
PhD thesis presented to the University of New South Wales, 1991.
First published in January 2002 [on the www, but disappeared].
Negotiating Stigma: Approaches to Intergenerational Sex deals with the
experience of younger parties involved in intergenerational sexual relationships
with adults. The study is based upon a set of interviews (nineteen in all) with
people who, while they were under sixteen, were voluntarily involved in such
relationships. They all described relationships that they regarded as positive
experiences. Frank and intriguing verbatim material from the interviews provides
the background and the basis for the analysis.
Letourneau, Mary Kay
Letourneau, Mary Kay,
accouche d'un deuxième enfant de son ami Vili, age aujourd'hui de 15 ans.
Bien que le jury américain ait condamné Mary Kay d’avoir violé son
élève Vili âgé de 13 ans, le teenager ne tenait plus de joie quand on
lui a annoncé la naissance de son second enfant.
Rappelons que le jeune amoureux a 15 ans pendant que la maman en compte
Vili se trouve, actuellement, à Paris, à l’occasion de la parution de
son livre édité aux éditions Fixot: “Mon seul crime était
from some articles about Mary Kay Letourneau, Ipce newsletter E18,
Mary Kay Letourneau, the teacher convicted for having sex with a sixth-grade
student, was released from prison Wednesday, and her 21-year-old victim
quickly sought to get back together with her. [...]
Mary Kay Letourneau, the former schoolteacher jailed for more than seven
years for having sex with a 13-year-old student, says she and the now-grown
former student are engaged to be married.
engaged to 21-year-old former student
Feb. 9, 2005 - (CNN) — Mary Kay Letourneau, the former schoolteacher
jailed for more than seven years for having sex with a 13-year-old student,
says she and the now-grown former student are engaged to be married.
See also: Kuehl, Michael.
as "Rapists" and "Pedophiles": Why Mary
Letourneau served more time in prison than the average male convicted of
The women are vilified as "pedophiles" and "child
molesters" for having sex with teenage males as old as 16 and 17 who
might be 6',4" with 10-inch penises and outweigh their
"abusers" by 50-150 pounds. They're described as
"rapists" and perpetrators of "sexual assault" when
there's obviously no "use or threat of force or violence" to
secure compliance and their definitional "victims" are perfectly
willing and knowing participants. Most insanely, both in the media and under
the law, the women are guilty of "rape" and "sexual
assault" even when they're raped and sexually assaulted by their
theoretical "victims." As we'll see, I'm talking about actual
cases, not hypothetically.
If anything, famously "progressive" Wisconsin is even battier than
the "Land of Loons." Since at least 1997, women have been
sentenced to jail and even prison not only for having sex with young men as
old as 16 and 17 but also, even more appallingly, for acquiescing to
intercourse and "sexual contact" with criminals and predators who
raped and assaulted them.
Monica, Interview, 1991
I thought it was important for society to listen to paedophiles; to hear and
understand why they had sexual contacts with children, what they feel about
children. I hoped society and paedophiles would come closer to each other and so
the happiness of children, paedophiles and parents would increase. Parents often
react panicky when they know their children have had sexual contacts with an
adult. And their reaction is very bad for the child. I hoped they would react in
a better way, when they knew more about paedophilia. So, I wanted to make
visible a large group of paedophiles and see what things they had in common. I
made a questionaire and had the interviews. The interviews were useful because
they gave a background to the answers in the questionaire. They put the answers
in the right perspective.
Booklet, 1981: Pedophilia, Protestantse Stichting voor Verantwoorde
(Protestant Foundation for Responsible Family Development), The Netherlands.
This booklet is intended for everyone who wants to know more about pedophilia,
but especially for those who actually deal with it. That includes primarily
pedophiles themselves and the children with whom they are involved. Then there
are the parents of the children, and the families of pedophiles. Because of
present day penal laws, policemen, judges and public prosecutors are also
confronted with this phenomenon. Social workers, too, are involved.
Quite properly, this booklet is also intended for children, but children who
read this booklet will very quickly see that it is especially written for
grown-ups. This is because 'pedophilia' isn't just a grown-up's word, but, in
many cases, is a grown-up's problem.
pédophilie, Brochure, (1979), Association Protestante Néerlandaise
de Planning Familial
Cette brochure parle de pédophilie. Elle est destinée à tous ceux qui
veulent en savoir plus sur la pédophilie, mais surtout à ceux qui sont
concernés. En premier lieu, les pédophiles eux-mêmes, et les enfants
qu'ils fréquentent. A côté de cela, les parents avec des enfants jeunes,
et les parents ayant des enfants pédophiles, sont concernés. A cause des
lois actuelles, il arrive aussi que la police et les magistrats y soient
confrontés. Des travailleurs sociaux y sont impliqués également. Ainsi,
il y a de nombreuses personnes qui s'occupent de pédophilie. A vrai dire,
cette brochure s'adresse également aux enfants, mais ils s'apercevront
rapidement qu'il s'agit malgré tout d'une brochure pour adultes. Cela vient
de ce que la "pédophilie" est non seulement un mot d'adulte, mais
surtout un problème d'adulte.
Ross, Norrie, Parents
knew of teen sex; 18feb05, Herald Sun News
Judge Wilmoth said the boy's parents came to accept the positive aspects of the
affair and became a friend and supporter of the woman. Both the boy and his
mother wrote letters to Judge Wilmoth supporting the woman. [...] And the boy
did not regard himself as a victim.
[..] Mr Belcher said the boy's parents initially disapproved strongly of the
relationship but changed after they saw the improvement in his behaviour. But
the judge said the sentence had to send a message that the law protected the
young from exploitation.
Sullivan, Randall; The
Seduction of Peter Jay Rudge; Rolling Stone MAGAZINE,
Jan 01 1993
When a thirteen-year-old boy disappeared ... ... with his mother's forty-year-old [female] friend, the people of Portland thought it was murder.
Then they thought it was something else.
More than a little contention was generated in both the [boy] Rudge and [woman] Walden
households by the amount of time the two spent with each other.
It had become obvious' that [woman] Diane liked [boy] Peter Jay a lot.
Pete [the boy's father]: "I saw Diane as a big kid herself, someone who genuinely liked being with
children. " & "My kids were around someone with no boundaries: buy anything, eat anywhere, do
The one point on which both parents agreed was that the obsessive pattern of Peter's involvement
with Diane had to be broken. ...
Thirty-nine nights passed without one word from either Diane or Peter.
It was the fortieth day, ... when Francie answered her phone on the first ring and spoke to a ....
sheriff's detective who told her that Peter Jay and Diane were alive and well in Atlantic City, ...where they had been taken into custody by police officers ....
"I am 100 percent sure there was nothing sexual,'' the detective told. ... Peter Rudge denied any
sexual activity ...
Peter Jay's personal therapist was a child psychiatrist, Teresa Shelby. ... During December, she twice
asked Peter if there had been "sexual contact'' between him and Diane, Dr. Shelby said, and "each time he denied any touching.'' ... Peter did say, though, that Diane was in love with him. ...
[Speaking with his second therapist Leo Munter and his father, Peter said:] "She would touch my
penis, outside my clothing and inside,'' he said. "She would just kind of move it around. She would
ask if it felt good.'' ... "I didn't know what to feel about what had happened.'' ...
Peter remembered: "She said, whatever happened, I couldn't say that she and I had sexual contact,
because she would face more time in jail. I said I wouldn't tell."
[The trial:] A detective wrote in his notes ... that Peter and Diane engaged in sex "three or four times
a day,'' rather than "three or four times a week,'' as the boy had testified in court. ...
Asked by her attorney about the allegations of sexual contact with the Rudge boy, Mrs. Walden
turned to the jury as she answered, "No, never".
[The verdict:] The jury hearing the case of 'State v. Walden' needed only a day of deliberation to
deliver a verdict local TV news broadcasts described as "startling'' and "shocking'': Diane was guilty
of custodial interference in the first degree, a felony, but had been acquitted of having sexual
intercourse with a minor, while the jurors were deadlocked on the charge of sexual touching.
"A lot of the evidence was contrary to the young man's story.''
Underwager, Ralph & Wakefield, Hollida, Antisexuality
and Child Sexual Abuse, Issues In Child Abuse Accusations, 5(2), 72-77.
Our current sexual abuse system promotes an antisexual view of human sexuality.
This is seen in the depiction of sex as bad in sexual abuse prevention programs,
the readiness to define a sexual or affectionate interaction as abusive, the
criminalization of childhood sexual behavior, and the genitalization of human
sexuality. The consequences of this are likely to be negative for children,
adults, and the society.