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Ipce Magazine # 2, July 2008 - Theme: Theme: women and 'pedophilia'

About Friendship
Everyone you know was a stranger at one time. There is always a risk that the next new person you meet will not be friendly to you but the reward that comes from giving people a chance is worth it.

Barbach, Lonnie Garfield, Bringing up Children Sexually  
Children's sexual exploration is like all other areas of exploration. For the child it is a way of learning about her environment and how to make a place for herself within it. Exploration includes urinating while standing up like a boy, wearing make-up like mother, playing doctor with other boys and girls down the street, and exploring sexual feelings with a girlfriend. Physical and loving relationships between two or more girls or two or more boys is a very common and natural part of the growing up process. It does not mean that the child is heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual. Each child will have the chance to choose a sexual orientation later on in life. This experimentation is a part of the development process for many children and not a cause for alarm or worry. One should try not to have the child feel abnormal or ashamed about the expression of budding sexual feelings.

Blasius, Mark, Sexual Revolution and the Liberation of Children: An Interview With Kate Millett
A sexual revolution begins with the emancipation of women, who are the chief victims of patriarchy, and also with ending of homosexual oppression. Part of the patriarchal family structure involves the control of the sexual life of children; indeed, the control of children totally. Children have virtually no rights guaranteed by law in our society and besides, they have no money which, in a money economy, is one of the most important sources of their oppression. Certainly, one of children's essential rights is to express themselves sexually, probably primarily with each other but with adults as well. So the sexual freedom of children is an important part of a sexual revolution.

Brongersma, E., An Historical Background, The NAMBLA Bulletin, Vol. 4, No. 2 (March, 1983), Pg. 1-9.
Slightly over a century ago, a new and hitherto unknown kind of aggression began to arise: the aggression against people who love children and want to express their love for them with bodily tenderness.

Califia, Pat, The Culture of Radical Sex, 1994

Introduction, Or:  It Is Always Right to Rebel
Public Sex represents the bulk of my nonfiction work from 1979 to the present. That's a decade and a half of fuming and fussing about sexual repression and censorship, [...]
The subtitle of this book, The Culture of Radical Sex, raises a definitional question. By “radical sex,” I do not simply mean sex which differs from the “norm” of heterosexual, vanilla, male-dominant intercourse. [...] But being a sex radical means being defiant as well as deviant. It means being aware that there is something unsatisfying and dishonest about the way sex is talked about (or hidden) in daily life. It also means questioning the way our society assigns privilege based on adherence to its moral codes, and in fact makes every sexual choice a matter of morality.

Sexual Outlaws v. The Sex Police 
“Sexual Outlaws v. The Sex Police” deals with age-of-consent laws, the state's attempt to control solicitation and public sex, the results of then-President Ronald Reagan's Meese Commission on pornography, and the implications of narcotics laws and public policy for IV drug users and the AIDS pandemic. From time to time, our government declares war on nearly every aspect of libidinal expression, so of course it would have been possible to address the issue of the social control of sexuality and other pleasures by looking at a dozen other topics. But these four battlegrounds are keys to understanding how and why cops and politicians go after vice.

The Age of Consent: The Great Kiddy-Porn Panic of '77 
Culturally induced schizophrenia allows parents to make sentimental speeches about the fleeting innocence of childhood and the happiness of years unburdened by carnal lust—and then exhaust themselves policing the sex lives of their children. Children are celibate because their parents prevent them from playing with other little kids or adults. They are shy because they are not allowed to go naked any longer than is absolutely necessary to take a bath. They are not innocent; they are ignorant, and that ignorance is deliberately created and maintained by parents who won't answer questions about sex and often punish their children for being bold enough to ask. This does not make sex disappear. The erotic becomes a vast, unmapped wilderness whose boundaries are clearly delineated by averted eyes. Sex becomes the thing not seen, the word not spoken, the forbidden impulse, the action that must be denied.

The Aftermath of the Great Kiddy-Porn Panic of '77 
Boy-lovers and lesbians who have young lovers are the only people offering a hand to help young women and men cross the difficult terrain between straight society and the gay community. They are not child molesters. The child abusers are teachers, therapists, cops, and parents who force their stale morality onto the young people in their custody. Instead of condemning pedophiles for their involvement with lesbian and gay youth, we should be supporting them. They need us badly. Forty years in prison is a long, long time. Only a very sad society with some very sick attitudes toward sex could think such a sentence is just. Forty years for what? For experiencing sexual pleasure? When the capacity to have orgasms is present at six months of age and possibly even earlier? God help us, it's a wonder any of us manage to feel love or make love with training like that.

Feminism, Pedophilia, and Children's Rights 
Minors who are given the power to say “no” to being sexually used by an abusive parent or relative are also going to assume the right to say “yes” to other young people and adults whom they desire. You can't liberate children and adolescents without disrupting the entire hierarchy of adult power and coercion and challenging the hegemony of antisex fundamentalist religious values.

Female Teachers Loving Their Students - Some quotes and clippings from the press

1) Female Teachers Accused Of Sex With Male Students Woman In Tennessee Faces 28 Counts - NBC10, 9 Feb 2005
2) Tenn. Teacher Charged With Sexual Battery - CNN News 2 Feb 2005 
3) Abuse cases face double standard - USA Today, February 11, 2005 - By Charisse Jones  
4) Florida teacher sentenced to probation, counseling - Courttv.com - February 9, 2005 

Global, The, Woman Who Had Baby With 14-Year-Old Boy Gets Probation; Oct 11, 2006 
Dawn Fisher, the 33-year-old Swanton woman who gave birth to a 14-year-old boy's baby, was sentenced Tuesday to five years in community control -- with no jail time. Even Judge James Bates admitted there's a double standard when men and women commit the same crime.

Heidi, interview with -, Paidika, 1991
Heidi is an attractive Danish woman of 24, a mixture of shyness and tomboyish behavior; slim, blond, with an intense interest in the world. The interview took place in her house in Copenhagen, in the fall of 1990.
Heidi: When I was thirteen I wasn't particularly interested in school, just going there like everybody else. I was a bit fast, a tomboy. I liked to party and have fun.
One day our teacher was sick and we got a new substitute teacher. She was cute and very charming; rather young too, at least in my mind. I think she was 28. She had a strong personality. The whole class talked about her; the boys were madly in love with her, and I fell in love with her too.

Heins, Marjorie:

Benfer, Amy, Banning censorship, Salon.com.
First Amendment attorney and author Marjorie Heins argues that obscenity laws do children more harm than good.
What, exactly, is material that causes "harm to minors"? Is it "Huckleberry Finn" or the work of Maya Angelou? Violent video games or R-rated movies? Graphic sexual content or comprehensive sex education?
Actually, as Heins found out, all of the above have been suppressed in the name of protecting children, despite the fact, she says, that social science has failed to provide convincing evidence that exposure to sexual or violent content has any negative impact on minors whatsoever.
Heins decided to trace the history of American obscenity laws to find the roots of the "harm to minors" argument. The result is "Not in Front of the Children: 'Indecency,' Censorship, and the Innocence of Youth," a book that chronicles the ideological and political underpinnings of censorship from Plato to the Victorians to the present day.

Not in front of the kids (NJ)
Transcript of a radio interview with Heins

Higonnet, Anne, Conclusions Based on Observation, The Yale Journal of criticism, 9.1, 1996
Childhood has become sacrosanct. Americans place a high value on child hood not only because we care about how actual adults treat actual children, but also because we freight childhood so heavily with ideals. Once upon a time, the values of innocence, purity, and nature could be variously located. Now we only seem able to find them in what we imagine to be the beleaguered bastion of childhood. If natural pure innocence is equated with a complete absence of sexuality--as it commonly is now in the United States--then sexual abuse of children violates the ultimate social taboo. From there it takes one step to blame child pornography. And one step more to censorship. Two dangerous steps.
[...] To me, the Neils look parentally erotic. To me--and I know I am speaking personally--they represent my maternal passion for my son's body. How many times have I stared adoringly at him, caressed him, kissed him, hugged him, inhaled his infant breath like the smell of life? I long for him physically when we are apart, to hold him close is bliss. During the first years of his life I spent most of my time with him caring for his body: feeding him, cleaning him, rocking him to sleep--not out of obligation but with love.

Leahy, Terry, Negotiating Stigma: Approaches to Intergenerational Sex, PhD thesis.
PhD thesis presented to the University of New South Wales, 1991.
First published in January 2002 [on the www, but disappeared].
Negotiating Stigma: Approaches to Intergenerational Sex deals with the experience of younger parties involved in intergenerational sexual relationships with adults. The study is based upon a set of interviews (nineteen in all) with people who, while they were under sixteen, were voluntarily involved in such relationships. They all described relationships that they regarded as positive experiences. Frank and intriguing verbatim material from the interviews provides the background and the basis for the analysis.

Letourneau, Mary Kay

Letourneau, Mary Kay, accouche d'un deuxième enfant de son ami Vili, age aujourd'hui de 15 ans.
Bien que le jury américain ait condamné Mary Kay d’avoir violé son élève Vili âgé de 13 ans, le teenager ne tenait plus de joie quand on lui a annoncé la naissance de son second enfant.
Rappelons que le jeune amoureux a 15 ans pendant que la maman en compte 36...
Vili se trouve, actuellement, à Paris, à l’occasion de la parution de son livre édité aux éditions Fixot: “Mon seul crime était d’aimer...”

Quotes from some articles about Mary Kay Letourneau, Ipce newsletter E18, february 2005
Mary Kay Letourneau, the teacher convicted for having sex with a sixth-grade student, was released from prison Wednesday, and her 21-year-old victim quickly sought to get back together with her. [...]
Mary Kay Letourneau, the former schoolteacher jailed for more than seven years for having sex with a 13-year-old student, says she and the now-grown former student are engaged to be married.

Letourneau engaged to 21-year-old former student 
Feb. 9, 2005 - (CNN) — Mary Kay Letourneau, the former schoolteacher jailed for more than seven years for having sex with a 13-year-old student, says she and the now-grown former student are engaged to be married.

See also: Kuehl, Michael.

Kuehl, Michael, 

Women as "Rapists" and "Pedophiles": Why Mary Letourneau served more time in prison than the average male convicted of murder; 2004 
The women are vilified as "pedophiles" and "child molesters" for having sex with teenage males as old as 16 and 17 who might be 6',4" with 10-inch penises and outweigh their "abusers" by 50-150 pounds. They're described as "rapists" and perpetrators of "sexual assault" when there's obviously no "use or threat of force or violence" to secure compliance and their definitional "victims" are perfectly willing and knowing participants. Most insanely, both in the media and under the law, the women are guilty of "rape" and "sexual assault" even when they're raped and sexually assaulted by their theoretical "victims." As we'll see, I'm talking about actual cases, not hypothetically.

Short version is in Ipce Newsletter E 18, February 2005.

Loony Wisconsin; 2004
If anything, famously "progressive" Wisconsin is even battier than the "Land of Loons." Since at least 1997, women have been sentenced to jail and even prison not only for having sex with young men as old as 16 and 17 but also, even more appallingly, for acquiescing to intercourse and "sexual contact" with criminals and predators who raped and assaulted them.

Paidika, Pieterse, Monica, Interview, 1991
I thought it was important for society to listen to paedophiles; to hear and understand why they had sexual contacts with children, what they feel about children. I hoped society and paedophiles would come closer to each other and so the happiness of children, paedophiles and parents would increase. Parents often react panicky when they know their children have had sexual contacts with an adult. And their reaction is very bad for the child. I hoped they would react in a better way, when they knew more about paedophilia. So, I wanted to make visible a large group of paedophiles and see what things they had in common. I made a questionaire and had the interviews. The interviews were useful because they gave a background to the answers in the questionaire. They put the answers in the right perspective.

PSVG Booklet, 1981: Pedophilia, Protestantse Stichting voor Verantwoorde Gezinsvorming
(Protestant Foundation for Responsible Family Development), The Netherlands.
This booklet is intended for everyone who wants to know more about pedophilia, but especially for those who actually deal with it. That includes primarily pedophiles themselves and the children with whom they are involved. Then there are the parents of the children, and the families of pedophiles. Because of present day penal laws, policemen, judges and public prosecutors are also confronted with this phenomenon. Social workers, too, are involved.
Quite properly, this booklet is also intended for children, but children who read this booklet will very quickly see that it is especially written for grown-ups. This is because 'pedophilia' isn't just a grown-up's word, but, in many cases, is a grown-up's problem. 

P.S.V.G. La pédophilie, Brochure, (1979), Association Protestante Néerlandaise de Planning Familial
Cette brochure parle de pédophilie. Elle est destinée à tous ceux qui veulent en savoir plus sur la pédophilie, mais surtout à ceux qui sont concernés. En premier lieu, les pédophiles eux-mêmes, et les enfants qu'ils fréquentent. A côté de cela, les parents avec des enfants jeunes, et les parents ayant des enfants pédophiles, sont concernés. A cause des lois actuelles, il arrive aussi que la police et les magistrats y soient confrontés. Des travailleurs sociaux y sont impliqués également. Ainsi, il y a de nombreuses personnes qui s'occupent de pédophilie. A vrai dire, cette brochure s'adresse également aux enfants, mais ils s'apercevront rapidement qu'il s'agit malgré tout d'une brochure pour adultes. Cela vient de ce que la "pédophilie" est non seulement un mot d'adulte, mais surtout un problème d'adulte.

Ross, Norrie, Parents knew of teen sex; 18feb05, Herald Sun News 
Judge Wilmoth said the boy's parents came to accept the positive aspects of the affair and became a friend and supporter of the woman. Both the boy and his mother wrote letters to Judge Wilmoth supporting the woman. [...] And the boy did not regard himself as a victim. 
[..] Mr Belcher said the boy's parents initially disapproved strongly of the relationship but changed after they saw the improvement in his behaviour. But the judge said the sentence had to send a message that the law protected the young from exploitation.

Sullivan, Randall; The Seduction of Peter Jay Rudge; Rolling Stone MAGAZINE, Jan 01 1993 
When a thirteen-year-old boy disappeared ... ... with his mother's forty-year-old [female] friend, the people of Portland thought it was murder. Then they thought it was something else.
More than a little contention was generated in both the [boy] Rudge and [woman] Walden households by the amount of time the two spent with each other. 
It had become obvious' that [woman] Diane liked [boy] Peter Jay a lot. 
Pete [the boy's father]: "I saw Diane as a big kid herself, someone who genuinely liked being with children. " & "My kids were around someone with no boundaries: buy anything, eat anywhere, do anything.'' 
The one point on which both parents agreed was that the obsessive pattern of Peter's involvement with Diane had to be broken. ... 
Thirty-nine nights passed without one word from either Diane or Peter. 
It was the fortieth day, ... when Francie answered her phone on the first ring and spoke to a .... sheriff's detective who told her that Peter Jay and Diane were alive and well in Atlantic City, ...where they had been taken into custody by police officers .... "I am 100 percent sure there was nothing sexual,'' the detective told. ... Peter Rudge denied any sexual activity ... 
Peter Jay's personal therapist was a child psychiatrist, Teresa Shelby. ... During December, she twice asked Peter if there had been "sexual contact'' between him and Diane, Dr. Shelby said, and "each time he denied any touching.'' ... Peter did say, though, that Diane was in love with him. ...
[Speaking with his second therapist Leo Munter and his father, Peter said:] "She would touch my penis, outside my clothing and inside,'' he said. "She would just kind of move it around. She would ask if it felt good.'' ... "I didn't know what to feel about what had happened.'' ... 
Peter remembered: "She said, whatever happened, I couldn't say that she and I had sexual contact, because she would face more time in jail. I said I wouldn't tell." 
[The trial:] A detective wrote in his notes ... that Peter and Diane engaged in sex "three or four times a day,'' rather than "three or four times a week,'' as the boy had testified in court. ...
Asked by her attorney about the allegations of sexual contact with the Rudge boy, Mrs. Walden turned to the jury as she answered, "No, never".  
[The verdict:] The jury hearing the case of 'State v. Walden' needed only a day of deliberation to deliver a verdict local TV news broadcasts described as "startling'' and "shocking'': Diane was guilty of custodial interference in the first degree, a felony, but had been acquitted of having sexual intercourse with a minor, while the jurors were deadlocked on the charge of sexual touching.
"A lot of the evidence was contrary to the young man's story.'' 

Underwager, Ralph & Wakefield, Hollida, Antisexuality and Child Sexual Abuse, Issues In Child Abuse Accusations, 5(2), 72-77. (1993)
Our current sexual abuse system promotes an antisexual view of human sexuality. This is seen in the depiction of sex as bad in sexual abuse prevention programs, the readiness to define a sexual or affectionate interaction as abusive, the criminalization of childhood sexual behavior, and the genitalization of human sexuality. The consequences of this are likely to be negative for children, adults, and the society.