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Modern Sexual Taboos and Their MoralityPunkerslut, 2002
"...Certain as I am that when opinions are free, either
in matters of govemment or religion, truth will finally and powerfully
prevail." -- IntroductionWhat makes a radical thinker who they are? Or, what makes a revolutionary idea so revolutionary? And, as my article will question, how far can a radical thinker go? To take a case examination, observe Thomas Paine. In the 1700's, he opposed Monarchy, Racism, Sexism, slavery, and revealed religion -- some things which we are only truly conquering today. In the time of Paine, those of another skin color were afforded no rights at all and slavery was a normal, respected institution. After centuries of his work, only some of his ideals had been met. Today, there are many philosophers and social scientists who advocate new radical ideas. Some of them claim that animals deserve more rights than they are currently given, while others work for environment protection programs. The concept of giving rights to animals or working to protect the environment are largely new concepts. To quote Henry Stephens Salt, "When Lord Erskine, speaking in the House of Lords in 1811, advocated the cause of justice to the lower animals, he was greeted with loud cries of insult and derision." [Animals' Rights, by Henry Stephens Salt, chapter 1, 1894.] Although many humane individuals today advocate the humane treatment of animals, still those many individuals will consume those who they believe deserve "humane treatment." What was it that made Thomas Paine a genius? It was the fact that he accepted viewpoints on evidence and reason -- viewpoints which have only been confirmed recently. Furthermore, it was also the fact that in the time of Paine, many of his viewpoints were disregarded as infidelity. To which he responded quite admirably, "Infidelity does not consist in believing, or in disbelieving; it consists in professing to believe what he does not believe." [The Age of Reason, by Thomas Paine, part 1, chapter 1.] Many of the orthodoxes that Paine challenged were held sacred. He detested revealed religion as much as he detested cruelty, and he worked fervently to relinquish the world of both calamities. Thomas Paine did not see things as sacred and non-sacred, though. Or, to simplify that statement, he did not see things that were unquestionable or undeserving of investigation. As well as offering reasoning and evidence to his claims, he had this creed of scientific observation and questioning, and that is why we consider him a genius today. There are those, however, who would argue against Paine for as long as they could, who would say as much against him as would be permitted. Those individuals who detested Abolitionism, Women's Suffrage, and equality of mankind held prejudice and bigotry closer to their heart than reason and compassion. It is rather for the sake of their cultural upbringing that they came to detest Paine and his views than from any method of investigation. Some individuals offered frail arguments for religion and slavery, of which Paine has a history of outrightly and powerfully refuting them. If Thomas Paine had been more intelligent than he was, would he have come to many of the conclusions of modern, radical thinkers? Although he did admit that animals were to be treated with affection, he did not advocate their right to life or liberty. If he had time and energy, as well as more critical investigation, would he have come to the position of being a Vegetarian and an Enviornmentalist? The question now is: what prevented him from reaching this even more radical position? Perhaps it was that his culture, being extremely limited as it was, did not allow that much investigation. Given the fact that Paine was utmostly intelligent and critical in all claims, it would only seem natural that given the right amount of time, he would reach even more radical opinions. Of course, perhaps the amount of unorthodox opinions (based on reason and evidence) one can reach may be measured in proportion to one's own intelligence and to the Freethought principles of one's society. And when I said radical opinions, do not confuse that with simply the idea of them being radical, but being combinely radical and logical. For example, if an individual lived in a society where to read or write was forbidden, and to be happy was a crime, and if this individual were to come to the same conclusions as Thomas Paine, then they would have been more radical compared to their society, yet they had managed to come to reasonable and logical ideas. The topic of this essay is modern sexual taboos and their morality. In the following pages, I will discuss the ethics and the reason concerning many things today which are detested by some: masturbation, homosexuality, prostitution, and other sexual taboos which are detested by many: Pedophilia, Zoophilia, Incest, and Free Love. The purpose of telling the story of Thomas Paine is to reaffirm the fact that we must consider proposals and arguments on the merit of their evidence and reasoning. We cannot accept a doctrine simply because it was taught to us by parents and society, no matter how delicate or sensitive an issue it may be. I understand there are some who may attempt to suppress freedom of thought. In May of 1812, Thomas Paine's book The Age of Reason was being sold by Daniel Isaac Eaton and he was imprisoned for 18 months. The crime was questioning the established religion.
It was made a crime by the bishops, the cardinals, and the popes of the world to investigate their faith, for what has such investigation revealed but the absurdity of their dogma? In another similar case, many individuals who oppose Euthanasia in Europe have written numerous books, but not against Euthanasia, but against the discussion of Euthanasia!
Those who oppose the investigation or discussion of their beliefs should be regarded highly suspiciously of; if their creed is the right one, then why must its evidences and proofs be hidden from public investigation, unless, of course, such evidences and proofs are highly inadequate? These individuals who have worked for Censorship for some cause -- Christianity, Euthanasia, etc. -- are ignoramuses and cowards. Because they cannot meet the arguments of their adversaries, and since they are in the majority, they work to disallow their adversaries from speaking! It is important to keep in mind the arguments that people have used to justify their actions. That, in the early 1600's and 1700's, many people justified slavery on many accounts: some claimed religion while others claimed that they bettered the lives of Africans by bringing them to America. (That is to say, the whip and flog was an "improvement" from their previous situation.) As thinkers and truthseekers, men and women who are compassionate and reasonable in their pursuits, we must understand that arguments are essential if a theory is to be proved right. We must understand that, no matter how seemingly atrocious sounding a conclusion may be, that its arguments are a thousand times more important than the conclusion. I brought up the case of Thomas Paine because he was a bold genius, daring to go where no one else had yet gone, and in some cases risking his own life in such endeavors. It was common opinion then that slavery was justifiable, just as it is common opinion today that Pedophilia is unjustifiable and one of the worst child abuses. We must base all of our opinions, both moral and scientific, on evidence and reasoning. In this essay I will question those arguments that are opposed to Masturbation, Homosexuality, Prostitution, Free Love, Incest, Zoophilia, and Pedophilia. The only thing that I can ask the reader is that he renders his opinions with the edge of reason and logic, compassion and reverence. A Few False Arguments ConsideredAppeal to the Natural...One of the first arguments presented for the sake of opposing sex, or for upholding any dubious doctrine, is to make an appeal to naturality. They may say that because an action is either natural or unnatural that it is therefore damnable. However, what is natural or unnatural must first be defined. If "natural" is defined as the course of things in which they happen, then everything is natural, as everything has happened in its own course. Allow us to let the definition of what is "natural" to remain as a variable, for the sake of making some points. If a person was about to be murdered and the only way to save them would fit into what was defined as "unnatural," does that mean we should stop from saving that person? Or, if murdering someone would fit into what was defined as "natural," does that mean it would be permissible to murder that person? Of course, this is all dependent upon what "natural" is defined as yet it has thousands of definitions and remains vague and blurry. The question is, if something is natural or unnatural, does that actually have any impact on moral implications? Such as a murderer's actions being natural, would that mean that they were any less immoral, or a savior's actions being unnatural, would that mean that they were any less moral? If we were to save someone's life, would whether or not it was natural or unnatural change the fact that we prevented suffering and ameliorated worry? Would it mean that we were vagrants, without thought or heart? Would it mean that we should have aided the person in their death, offering our betrayal to humaneness with a dagger? Would it mean that the tears on the face of this person were not to appeal to our sympathy, that their pains and agonies amplified through screams and cries were to be ignored, that affection was to be neglected -- all due on account of what is natural or unnatural? If someone were to torture another individual, would whether or not such is natural or unnatural change the pain inflicted on the helpless soul? If it was natural, would it mean that the torturer was just acting out his will and that his musings in death were to be ignored, just as the screams of the victim were to be silenced in our thoughts? All on account of the philosophical notion that what is natural or unnatural, does that mean that we ought to leave the victim to the unrelenting, slow, abusive torture of a man whose last interest is ending cruelty? Whether or not it is natural to make someone suffer unnecessarily, it is still immoral. Similarly, whether or not a sexual act is natural, it has no relevance on whether or not the sexual act was moral or immoral. Can anyone truly confess that they think that unnatural suffering is worse than natural suffering, or vice versa? Certainly not. If someone were to respond to this argument by claiming that what is natural is equal to what is good, then the word "natural" is simply extra wordage. It is simply a synonym, and to ask if something is natural or unnatural is exactly the same as to ask someone whether something is ethical or unethical.
Therefore, to make an Appeal to the Natural does nothing, as what is natural or unnatural has absolutely no impact on whether or not an action is immoral, and what exactly natural is rarely comes to be defined. Appeal to Beauty...Another objection to a sexual act is the fact that its thought may be disturbing. Some people may find it disgusting that two people can consent to things which they find abominable. Although it is true that there may be no suffering exchanging in such a sexual act, they detest it on the grounds that it is grosteque -- at least, it is grosteque to them. The fallacy of this objection can quite clearly be seen: an action being ugly does not mean that it is immoral, just as an action being beautiful does not mean it is moral. If someone were to make the appeal that they detested a particular action because it was disgusting, it would best for them to imagine if someone wanted to limit them in their favorite action because it was thought to be disgusting. Suffering is suffering and misery is misery. Whether it is surrounded by the veil of beauty or the sheet of wretchedness, it is still contaminated with the same fact that such an action is painful, full of the things that make up the negative parts of life. Similarly, happiness is happiness and pleasure is pleasure. Whether with the label of "beautiful" or "ugly," such actions still exist to lift our hearts and to put new meaning into our lives. On no appeal to beauty can any action be condemned, otherwise we would find that we are censoring the pages in the book of humanity, depriving ourselves and others of the pleasure and happiness that can ease worries and pains. Appeal to Obscurity...Similar to the Appeal to Beauty, the Appeal to Obscurity is based not on contaminating an action with the title of "ugly" or "harmful to the eye," but rather, it makes the claim that such an action is obscure, odd, misplaced, and therefore should not be committed, in public or in private. This Appeal, though, just like the Appeal to Beauty, is flawed on the same grounds: whether or not an individual's actions are obscure and incomprehensible, or easily understood and simple, it has no grounds on determining whether or not such an action is ethical or unethical. Appeal to Design...Some may make the appeal that an act is immoral or unethical if it is using parts or tools that are not meant to be used in the fashion they are being used in. For example, a sexual relationship between two men would be immoral, because they were using parts of their body in a manner that they were not "designed for." However, this fatuous appeal suffers from its failure to remain consistent within any imaginable form of reason or logic. Who is to determine what something is designed for, anyway? If sexual organs are designed to be used for procreation, does that mean that their idleness is immoral as well, thus justifying rape? Since there is no evidence of a god, and thus no designer, does that mean we are not allowed to eat food, because it was not designed for that purpose? In fact, if you were to take my criticism of the Appeal to Naturality and replace the word "natural" with the word "designed," you would find yourself coming across the same errors. If, for example, we were to erroneously decide through whichever method that medical tools are not desigend to be medical tools, does that mean we should abstain from using them when it comes to saving another's life? Or, if a knife is designed to kill, does that mean that it is acceptable to kill someone, simply because it has that design to it? Certainly not. Any sexual act that may or may not use particular appendiges that are or are not designed for such activity, it is irrelevant. As a humane, rational philosophy, it would be best to allow all that increases happiness, without causing suffering. By allowing sexual activity, this is accomplished. To make the claim that something cannot be done because it was not designed that way is to make an irrelevant, entirely foolish claim. Monopoly on Love or Meaning...Another popular argument brought up for the sake of limiting an activity is to make a monopoly on love or meaning.
If someone saves another from death, and does so without love or meaning, does that mean that they themselves are immoral for their action -- only on account of the fact that it may have lacked some particular sentiment? Or, if someone were to maim, murder, or rape another, and did so fully with the conviction of love and meaning, would that mean that such an individual could be moral, and even deserving of being praised, all based on the fact that they implemented love and meaning in their actions? I wrote it earlier, but it's true that misery is misery and suffering is suffering. Whether with or without the burden of meaning and love, it is quite irrelevant. As there are positive, moral actions that can be done without either meaning or love, and there are negative, immoral actions that can be done with meaning and love. However, whether or not there is love or meaning in them does not necessarily alter even slightly the fact that they are harmful or helpful. Appeal to Religion...Those who have followed my essays ought to be well aware of the fact that I have highly criticized religion for its failure to enact any proper morality or to obtain any morality. To quote one of my essays...
This short section of the essay "Civilization" puts into question the very validity of defending an act, or prosecuting an act, on the foundation of religion. The ideas were better captured, however, in the essay, "Should Atheism be Defended?"
Those who assert that an action is wrong because it is opposed to some mystical, religious scripture are using flawed reasoning. As demonstrated above, an individual who claims that he speaks for god may create whatever moral code he desires. So we have it today that there are numerous religious codes from different religions and different sects. It certainly proves nothing, other than the credulous and unreasonable method of obtaining knowledge of religionists. An extremely simplified version of this idea can be seen here: One individual may say that god hates Homosexuals and therefore all Homosexuals are to be killed, but another individual may say that god hates Hetereosexuals and therefore all Heterosexuals are to be killed. Since both individuals are basing their knowledge on what the unseen had told them, both individuals are equally justified in making there claims. Principle of SexualityNow that I have provided answers to common objections to taboo sexuality, it is important that I set a sort of attitude about sex. This attitude is not necessarily an argument or a rebuttal as far as defending or prosecuting certain sexual moralities. Rather, it sets a sexual morality and defends it. The attitude towards sex -- or the Principle of Sexuality -- is this: that sex, like any other physical act, is not inherently good or bad, that it may be used to cause suffering and used to cause joy. Therefore, there ought to be no restrictions upon sex, except only those restrictions which prevent suffering. That would mean that rape, and any other form of coerced sex, is immoral and unethical. That would also mean, however, that the traditional custom of Monogamy is hopelessly outdated and a vestige as far as creeds go. As stated, sex is like any other physical act. It requires the use of contraction and relaxation in muscles, to form movement, and it requires our mind to govern our body to certain actions. When we walk, it is because our mind commands our body to contract some muscles and relax others. It is the same situation when we have sex. Monogamy requires of us, though, to only engage in this activity with only one individual, and with this one individual only. To say that we ought to restrict sex to only one person, then, is equally justified and equally moral or righteous, as to say that we ought to restrict walking with only one person, or talking with only one person, or eating with one other person. And that adultery of sex is equatable with adultery of any other physical activities. Of course, it is to be taken into consideration that if one were to forge a monogamous relationship, that they ought not to cheat on their lover. For this would cause unfair suffering. There are circumstances to be taken into consideration, though, so this cannot be said with absolute certaintly. What if, for example, one lover threatened to kill their own lover if they ever left? Such is common within monogamy, where the bodies of other people are treated to be the property of another -- where, essentially, the right to govern our own bodies in accordance with our own desires, is deprived from us -- in this treacherous, rather indignant system of Monogamy, it will boast of the high righteousness of "one man one woman," but it achieves nothing but jealousy, anger, and unsophisticated behavior. In such an age as ours, where we have advanced wonderfully in all fields of knowledge, it seems almost as though our sexual behavior has become more primitive and more barbaric. The Puritans, for example, were extremely restrictive as far as what they allowed themselves to get pleasure from. It seemed as though they planted the seeds of displeasure for themselves, that every flower was plucked to deprive anyone from seeing its beauty, that love and affection were treated as what a Humanitarian treats hate and disregard. The Puritans were not in any sense advanced, sociologically or culturally. We find, instead, that they had developed a strictly barbaric and cruel doctrine, where pleasure was the greatest vice. Free Love, Polyamory, the Principle of Sexuality, or, generally speaking, "Non-Monogamy," all have their foundation in the one concept that to improve happiness and to allow liberty are the greatest of all deeds, that an individual's mind only truly is prosperous when it has been given the right to pleasure, that we have a right to come to everything which calls our heart, to go to the stream of consciousness, to walk the journey of discovery. The foundation of Free Love is essentially this: that we ought not to restrict ourselves, when such a restriction is an obstruction to happiness, freedom, liberty, and all that allows affection to flow freely between the two bodies of lovers. The warm, tender touch of friend who has known us for years, in the times of trial and the times of joy, -- this touch may be all that is needed to make life worth living, even in the hardest moments. Yet, under the guise of "righteousness" or "morality," crusaders for Monogamy may claim that it is to cheat to touch another other than your solitary partner, and some even have made the ridiculous assertion that to think of another is even adultery! Though I cannot honestly say that these persons should be deprived of their right to speak, I can only say this: that their tactics only serve to indoctrinate men and women into the credulous belief that acting with liberty towards a desired pleasure is immoral -- that to do what we wish without causing suffering, that to bring our lips to the petals of the sweet rose of meaning and tenderness, to embrace all that has warmed our hearts, to inform those we love using our own gentle bodies, to thoughtfully fondle and caress the sweet skin of our lover, to offer our emotions in the most sincere of tones, to offer our bodies as a sign of undying love, to touch the pond of intimacy sending out ripples that touch all of our emotions, to do all that has captured the ideas of romance, to do this, is immoral. To understand emotions, and allow them to be expressed without censor, would be to make a genuine strive towards a real ideal of civilization. In our Monogamist culture, there are many lovers who will allow their partners to hug another, but there is a smaller amount who will allow their partners to kiss another, and there are almost none who would allow them to do any more than that, save for those lovers who are Free Lovers. What is being restricted, though? Any form of sexual stimulation is reviled as a form of immorality, as an action based on disregard, disrespect, and abuse. Through these cultural memes, we find that sex is less and less a form of physical affection, but rather as a method of controlling people. This is how our society has advanced quite little from our fellow animal brethren. Animals in the wild will play games when it comes to deciding mates, and so it is an inherent part of our culture that men and women will play games with each other when it comes to deciding mates. There is not one ounce of liberty, or truth, or sincerity, in what goes on in these sex games. Instead, men are brought up believing that they are to be proud for engaging is sex with as many as possible, whereas women are to be ashamed for the exact same activity. This is not something purely cultural, as it has its roots in Evolution. Females who were more selective when choosing a father had offspring that survived longer, and therefore multiplied more -- thus the idea of Natural Selection. Although this may have served humans while we were incapable of producing fire or using the wheel, it certainly is only a front to any form of real civilization. Today, it works to create a gulf between a humane, rational mindset and a savage, barbaric ideology. The least sort of sexual stimulation from an individual who is not your partner is regarded as adultery or cheating. Some lovers do not permit their partners from even looking at another, and will be offended if someone looks at their partner. So it is with the hypocritical and unsympathetic system that it takes the most normal, pleasurable acts, and turns them into the vices of cruelty and bigotry, depriving us both of freedom, and our right to pursue what makes us happy. They will dress up the two partners, force them to live together for decades, give it the smug title of "matrimony," and they will call this civilized -- yet it is only the revealed essense of savagery and primitive ignorance! I have seen monogamous partners do the most awful of things to each other, all for the sake of this credulous system. They will immediately reject the most true and genuine affections of their young, innocent partner, upon the slightest suspicion that they shown any sort of kindness towards another individual. Cruelty has been, and will forever be, an inherent part of any system that is founded on hypocritical contradictions and unreasonable assertions. It should be no wonder, then, that we find the most cruel, heartless, greed-driven activity within this monstrous doctrine of Monogamy. The attitude towards sex -- the Principle of Sexuality -- is this: that we will not restrict sex, unless it may lead to undesired suffering, nor will we restrict the activities of others whom we are intimate with, nor will we try to control them through a savaged, antiquated system fit for uncivilized brutes.... nor will we embrace any sort of behavior which will be reflected in the tears on our lover's face, nor will we enhance any sort of attitude which harbors misery for those in it. The Principle of Sexuality -- Free Love, Polyamory -- is of freedom, liberty, to do as we wish, and to harm none, nor to restrict any in their endeavors. Most particularly, to uphold and use sex as a positive thing, as we would use anything in our lives, and to hold no restrictions to it, nor to those we engage in it with. That is the Principle of Sexuality: liberty, and the freedom that comes with genuine, natural affection. Now that I have set an attitude towards sexuality based on logical and humane premises, as well as the arsenal of refuted arguments, I will now go on to question modern sexual taboos and their morality. Masturbation (Auto-Eroticism)Although hardly taboo any more, there are still Puritan crusaders who work to convince the population that Masturbation -- or Auto-Eroticism -- is immoral. To stimulate one's self sexually, it is preached, is unethical. This can hardly be so, however, as masturbation certainly does not cause any suffering or misery. If it does, in the form of a sort of guilt, this can usually be traced directly back to the Puritan creeds that dictate against any form of masturbation. To the arguments that it may be unnatural, ugly, obscure, unintended (or our bodies not designed for it), or to make a religious claim that it is immoral -- all of these arguments have already been answered previously. There is one particular argument specifically against masturbation, though, and that is to claim that masturbating destroys the "special" aspect of sexuality. This argument often comes in this form: "The more you do it, the less special it will be." The claim then goes on to state that we should not do it, because of this. Essentially, it claims that we ought to avoid pleasure, because we would value pleasure more if we received it less. According to this reason, we ought to restrict ourselves from sex, as well, because the more we do it, the less "special" it will be. This can be said of any pleasurable thing as well. Even beyond that, we ought to harm ourselves, for the sake of the enjoyment of an aspirin's pain-relieving ability. Furthermore, even if it is true that engaging in pleasure removes the specialness of that pleasure, that is certainly not a moral argument against it, and if it were, it would suitably fit any movement that was wishing to oppose any act that granted pleasure. If an individual wishes to remove the specialness of an act, to do so is not innately moral or immoral. It is, rather, a preference, or a personal choice. HomosexualityWhen reading the common objections brought up against any sexual act -- the section I covered earlier when addressing certain appeals -- the echoes of arguments against Homosexuality can be heard in full force. Preachers and priests are very fond of making the claim that Homosexuality is immoral only on the sake that it is unnatural. However, if to save someone's life was unnatural, would they oppose it, and if to murder or rape someone was natural, would they condone it? Quite clearly seen, whether or not something is natural or unnatural, it has no effect on whether it is immoral or moral, but I have already covered this. There are also appeals to obscurity, appeals to beauty, appeals to a monopoly on love or meaning, and certainly numerous and countless appeals on account of religion. Simply put, there is no logical or humane reason why men should not be allowed to have sexual relations with each other. Someone may bring up a single case of a Homosexual man raping male children, but that proves nothing, as there are certainly Heterosexual men who have raped female children -- it certainly does not mean that Homosexuals have a tendency towards force, coercion, or violence, just as it does not mean that either for Heterosexuals. Some may claim that Homosexuality is immoral because it is based on recreation and not procreation, going against th purpose of sex organs altogether, but I already answered the argument of design, and not everything we do must be geared towards creating more humans on this already over-populated planet. Homosexuality is not immoral, and this claim is made on the fact that it is not responsible for causing any suffering, nor has it committed any crime. ProstitutionUnlike the two previously considered activities -- Masturbation (Auto-Eroticism) and Homosexuality -- it is widely believed that prostition, and others who work with the sex industry, are immoral. I can hardly see, though, how prostition can be immoral, if other forms of labor are immoral. After all, a construction worker, for example, offers his body's functions to his employer, so that he can get a paycheck. Similarly, prostitute does the same. To say that there is a differen |