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II     Social Background and Sexual Behaviour

   This chapter summarises the results obtained with the Paedophile Questionnaire described in the last chapter. Whenever possible, quantitative tabulations have been compiled showing the number of subjects giving responses that fall within certain pre-selected categories. For the most part, these are presented as the absolute number of subjects out of the 77 who gave each kind of answer, though it would not be difficult for the reader to convert these into percentages if this was desired. This has been done for occupation in Table 3 and it can be seen that the figures are all slightly larger when expressed as percentages (by a factor of just less than one-third).

Apart from this quantitative analysis, it was thought useful to give an impressionistic insight into the data by presenting some of the more typical and interesting replies verbatim. This is done throughout the chapter by following the quantitative table with a second table of selected quotations for each of the questions in the survey. All of the information presented in this chapter is derived from the tailor-made Paedophile Questionnaire with the exception of the subject’s age and occupation which are requested by the standard form of the Eysenck Personality Questionnaire.


The main occupational groups of the 77 PIE members are shown in Table 3. A fairly high proportion of the sample were in professional-level occupations (a higher proportion than for the British population at large). Particularly interesting is the fact that many were in professions that would bring them into regular contact with children (e.g. teacher, social worker).

Presumably they gravitated towards these occupations because of their liking for the company of children. To what extent they take sexual advantage of these positions of responsibility is not answered by these data. Three subjects reported that they were no longer able to pursue the occupation of their choice and training following discovery of their paedophile interests or actual court proceedings. Even so, the proportion who were unemployed or unable to hold down a job appeared to be quite low (given the high level of unemployment in Britain at the time of the study). Perhaps an organisation such as PIE, with intellectual aims and pretensions, is more visible and appealing to well-educated paedophiles than to those at lower occupational levels.

 TABLE 3  
 Occupations of 77 PIE Members

 Professionals 38%

                                               N        %

Teacher                                 10       13

Lecturer                                 2         3

Social worker nurse             3         4        

Student                                  3         4

Other professionals            11       14

White collar  35%

Clerk/civil servant            16        21   

Engineer/technician          5          6   

Sales                                      6          8

  Blue collar 14%

Skilled workers                  4            5  

Unskilled workers             7            9

  Unemployed                    6            8

Not given                            4            5


  Figure 1 shows the age distribution of the PIE men who answered the questionnaires. Although the modal age range is between 35 and 40, there is a fair representation of all age groups between 20 and 60. No subjects were under 20, and only two were older than 60. This age profile is rather younger than that found for members of clubs for fetishists, sadomasochists and transvestites (Gosselin and Wilson, 1980).


Sex and age of preferred partners

  The majority (71 per cent) of the sample said that they were mainly attracted to boys, 12 per cent preferred girls, and 17 per cent were attracted to both boys and girls. Figure 2 shows the distribution of ages of ideal partners. There is a fairly clear peak at the years immediately preceding puberty in boys (12, 13 and 14). Rather surprisingly, a few subjects claimed to prefer partners over the age of 16. Although still illegal in Britain (the age for homosexual male consent being 21), this would not qualify as paedophilia in the definitions of many researchers and clinicians. They may, of course, regard themselves as paedophiles because the age range of partners to whom they are strongly attracted extends downwards several years.

  The preferred age of partners for the minority who were attracted mainly to girls was noticeably younger than that of the boy-oriented men. Here the ages of 8, 9 and 10 were most frequently cited as optimally attractive. The preference for younger females is confirmed by two bisexual subjects who gave separate optimal ages for boy and girl targets. In both cases, girls were found attractive at an age two or three years younger than boys.

  The theoretical significance of this difference is not clear, although it may have something to do with earlier puberty in girls. A certain degree of attraction to well-developed thirteen-and fourteen-year-old girls is very common, if not endemic, in the male population. Certainly, many readers may wonder why the man who described his ideal target as sixteen-year-old girls should regard himself as a paedophile at all.


Basis of attraction

 Item 4 of the Paedophile Questionnaire asked subjects what it was in particular that they found attractive in children. The results are shown quantitatively in Table 4 and some of the more interesting and illuminating replies are presented verbatim in Table 5.


Aspects of children that paedophiles find attractive

(Numbers out of the sample of 77 that mentioned the characteristic)


            Good looks (unspecified)                    12

            Smooth skin (hairlessness)                  11

            Eyes                                                          5

            Slim stature                                             5

            Face                                                          3

            Physique (unspecified)                         3

            Bottoms/buttocks                                 3

            Smallness                                                2

            Complexion (clear)                                2

  (Mentioned once: firm body, smile, feminine features, health, muscles, genitals, black and oriental, unbroken voice, blond hair, school uniforms)



            Innocence                                        17

            Openness                                          7

            Curiosity                                           7

            Spontaneity                                      6

            Vitality/enthusiasm                       5

            Lack of inhibition                            5

            Honesty                                            5

            Warmth/affection                          5

            Conversation/companionship     4

            Charm                                               4

            Friendliness                                     4

            Sense of humour/fun/mischief   3

  (Mentioned once or twice: softness, simplicity, energy, vulnerability, modesty, nostalgia, kindness, understanding)


Aspects of children that paedophiles find attractive  
(Selected quotations)

  S7        ‘Ask a sexually orthodox man what he finds attractive about adult women - how does he answer? Not with a cerebral definition! Long legs, a sweet smell, a secret and overwhelming beauty perceived by my indefensible loins.’  

S13      ‘Mine is a purely physical attraction. I am sodomy oriented and so have a strong overriding buttock fetish. Otherwise the characteristics that stimulate me are smooth, hairless skin, feminine facial features, rounded limbs, unbroken voice, and an unselfconscious sensuality.’  

S14      ‘I like their sense of enjoyment; their mixture of modesty (not necessarily sexual) and vitality; their loyalty and wish to please without reference to material concerns; above all, their affection.’  

S24      ‘Their smallness, superb skin texture, absence of pubic hair, affectionate nature, curiosity, naivety, boldness and a million other things.’  

S35      ‘Quality of freshness - especially complexion of skin and hairless-ness of pubic area. Also I associate smallness and youngness with a need for affection: perceive children as wanting to be hugged and cuddled. See my own feelings as quasi-maternal.’  

S39      ‘Difficult question! Their youth, their physique, everything that makes them different from adults.’  

S41 ‘They are as I was. I’m looking for love for myself as child.’  

S46      ‘Slimness; vulnerability; capacity for spontaneous expression of feelings; vivacity; mischievousness; dawning sexual interest and eagerness; sense that life has yet to be discovered; ready response to an adult prepared to listen and take them seriously.’  

S5O     ‘I like the young male physically because I am homosexual. But I think I like young boys because they have little or no body hair and their bodies are more effeminate, and more loving.’  

S71 ‘Qualities of beauty; freshness, directness, lack of guile; the great pleasure they can derive from a relationship, and my own pleasure in evoking theirs.’  

S74      ‘Able to handle without feeling shy, and seeing the look of pleasure in their eyes.  

S75      ‘Softness, vivacity, gentleness, no make-up, freshness, spontaneity, lack of cynicism, lack of obsession with the future and practicalities of life.’  

S76      ‘The clear complexion, shining eyes and smiling picture of youth and innocence — “period of blossom”. Their bodies are beautiful and the chirpy voice. Exactly the same points that men* find attractive about women.  

* I include myself in this category.’  

  From Table 4 it can be seen that both physical appearance and personality characteristics are claimed as important determinants of the appeal of children to the paedophile, with personality descriptions being given slightly more commonly than physical descriptions. The most important personality trait that the men find attractive in children is their innocence and openness, this being expressed in a variety of different ways (lack of inhibition, honesty, simplicity, curiosity, openness to experience, willingness to learn, spontaneity, etc). Their warmth, affection, friendliness, charm, softness and understanding were also mentioned, although this might have referred to the particular children with whom the men were able to establish some relationship. Other descriptions related to energy level, e.g. vitality, vivaciousness, enthusiasm, mischief, liveliness.  

The most attractive physical characteristic is apparently a lack of pubic hair. This ties in with the age distribution of preferred child partners which shows a dramatic fall-off after the age of fourteen (by which time puberty is well established). There was also some interest in the face and eyes, stature (slim and small) and the bottom.  

A study of these details along with the more complete answers from the more verbally expressive subjects given in Table 5 suggests the importance of three major factors as basic to the attraction of children:

(1) Although the majority of these men are homosexual in orientation, they paradoxically seek feminine characteristics in their male partners. It appears that for many of them women are first of all ruled out as potential sex objects, but thereafter preferences amongst homosexual targets are determined by the extent of their femininity in appearance and temperament. This might help to explain why body hair is seen as unattractive: it is a male characteristic as much as an adult one. Similarly, a soft complexion, unbroken voice, feminine features, warmth and affection, and modesty (Table 4) are all feminine characteristics. Subject 50 is fairly explicit in stating that although he is homosexual, he likes young boys because ‘they have little or no body hair and their bodies are more effeminate’.

(2)    There are strong suggestions in some of the replies that children were preferred as sex targets because these men felt more comfortable in approaching them than they would with adults. There was reference, for example, to their ‘ready response to an adult prepared to listen and take them seriously’, their ‘wish to please without reference to material concerns’, and their ‘lack of obsession with the practicalities of life’. Such comments could be read as reflecting an expectation that children are more receptive to advances both social and sexual. Adults, by contrast, are seen as relatively threatening, and of course, given that most of the paedophiles are homosexually oriented, it might be true that there are dangers associated with miscalculated sexual advances to adult men. Even if they do not begin that way, adults are bound eventually to become associated with the punitive society that reacts vehemently to the paedophiles’ sexual interests.

(3)    It has frequently been pointed out in the literature on homosexuality that homosexual men are not generally effeminate in the sense of being like women in their sexual preferences. Rather they react like normal men, with the one difference that they prefer male sex objects. Within that restriction they have the same lust for variety, interest in pornography and concern for the physical characteristics of their sex partners that typify heterosexual masculinity. One outstanding characteristic of male sexuality is an emphasis on youth in the partner; women may be attracted to middle-aged men, but men of all ages are usually attracted primarily to girls in their late teens. Models, pin-ups and beauty queens are usually about nineteen. The evolutionary reason for this has been traced to the concept of reproductive fitness (Symons, 1979). Now since it seems to be a typically male trait to take pleasure from initiating, seducing, or ‘corrupting’ young, virginal sex partners, it is perhaps not surprising that homosexual men are also interested in young boys. It appears that an exaggeration of this ‘natural’ tendency for males to seek young partners is a partial root of paedophilia. This point of view is supported by the importance assigned to ‘innocence’ and ‘freshness’ as an attractive personality trait, and certain comments such as ‘dawning sexual interest and eager-ness’, the ‘period of blossom’ and ‘the great pleasure they can derive from a relationship, and my own pleasure in evoking theirs’. Also implicit in these comments is the belief that people whose sexuality is just ‘awakening’ derive the most intense experience from sexual contact and therefore show the most erotic reactions.

  Attitudes towards sex with adults  

In answer to the question about how they regard sex with adults, the majority gave replies that indicated indifference (Table 6). However, 18 per cent registered disgust or some equally powerful negative emotion such as ‘revulsion’ or ‘repugnance’ and a similar proportion of the sample claimed that it was perfectly enjoyable (though not of course as attractive a prospect as sex with children). Interestingly, a further 12 per cent of the sample misunderstood the question as applying to sex between children and adults, which could be interpreted as meaning that these subjects found the idea of sex with adults so ego-alien that they had difficulty in conceptualising it at all. Quite a few subjects took the opportunity to express their belief that in matters of sex one should ‘live and let live’; therefore they said it was fine for other people who liked it, but not for themselves.  


Summary of attitudes to sex with adults among PIE members  

                                                                           N                 %

            Negative feelings                                14               18

            (e.g. disgust, fear, horror)

            Indifferent                                             33              43

             (e.g. pointless, tolerable, OK for others)

              Positive feelings                                  14           18

             (e.g. enjoyable, exciting)

            Misunderstood as applying to              9               12

             sex between adult and child

            No response or unclassifiable                7                 9



  Attitudes towards sex with adults (Selected quotations)

  S11      ‘Although I never had sex with a woman, I would very much like to, but I am too fearful of the unknown. I prefer at present sex with boys over the age of 17 years, my taking the passive role.’  

S12      ‘Pretty good. I have had sex with an adult. He was hairy -UGH!!! I belong to various gay groups. I am still coming out. But sex to me is homosexual and I still prefer boys.’  

S14      ‘Almost all adults make me unhappy and mildly frightened by excessive demands and practices I don’t like. Occasionally I have been happy with really affectionate people.’  

S18      ‘I could not do it with adults. I don’t like men sexually, and although I’ve been out with women I’ve never had sex with them. Being brought up a Catholic, all sex has been classed a mortal sin. Therefore I’ve bypassed this with women.            

S35      ‘With complete indifference. For me, sex with a woman (or a man) is merely a mechanical performance, and an arduous one at that. Find no pleasure in touching adult bodies and find it difficult to understand that an adult partner might take pleasure in my body (though my body is passable enough, and I’m facially good-looking).’  

S53      ‘As a gay person, I can relate to older women and even girls of my own age - only on a non-sexual basis. I cannot relate to men very well, yet I am at ease with guys of my own age and younger.  

S59      ‘With a nubile young woman the idea is enormously attractive. With females generally, the idea appeals in inverse ratio to their age, becoming repulsive at middle age. With adult males, quite unthinkable, revolting in the extreme.’  

S62      ‘With little interest - have had sexual encounters with women and men but only really enjoyed them when I fantasised that they were boys.’  

S67      ‘I feel that adults have developed prejudiced and preconceived opinions of themselves and other people to the extent that they are no longer capable of being truthful even in love.’  

S72      ‘For my part the idea of sex with an adult female would not abhor me.’ After the age of about 22 I have not felt any strong desire to so engage. I feel no desire at all to liase with an adult male.’  

S76      ‘I want to get married and have a family and I want to have sex with a woman. The idea of sex with an adult male disgusts me (although I do believe that those in favour of this should be able to do so). I agree with the saying “A woman for necessity and a boy for pleasure”.’  

S77      ‘If I have a relationship with a boy, as he gets older I still feel the same about him, but I cannot feel attraction for an older person any other way.  

Some of the more interesting replies to this question are given in full in Table 7. Of some theoretical interest is the finding that quite a few of the sample (approximately 10 per cent) were homosexual in their paedophile interests but were heterosexual as regards their adult sexual preferences. That is, they liked boys and women, but not adult men. This ties in with the suggestion made earlier that boys are sometimes sought as sex targets paradoxically because they are feminine compared with adult men. For these individuals, adult men are perceived as excessively muscular, hairy and ‘macho’, and therefore presumably too threatening to be considered as sex objects. Other subjects, however, claimed to be totally gay; they would consider sex only with men but preferred them young.

Several paedophiles reported that they had a good relation-ship with their wife and no extramarital experience with other women. There was even a hint of pride in this claim, as though extramarital sex with boys was viewed as less morally reprehensible than adultery with a woman. That moral inhibitions were of some relevance to these subjects was suggested by occasional reference to strict religious upbringing. (‘Being brought up a Catholic, all sex has been classed as a mortal sin. Therefore I’ve bypassed this with women’.) A few subjects said they had not been interested in women at all until meeting their particular wife and she remained the only woman to whom they felt they could relate sexually.

While some paedophiles appeared to have a jaundiced view of adults in general, many others cited particular categories of adults that they could find attractive or special circumstances under which sex with an adult might be contemplated. Some would consider sex with young adults if they were sufficiently slim, athletic and good-looking; others treated adults as poor alternatives that they would resort to if sufficiently frustrated or frightened of prosecution. One subject said he could manage sex with an adult only if he fantasised about boys in the process. Another said he sometimes adopted the passive role with adult men but would not like to participate actively.  

Attitudes towards parents  

The way in which their parents were perceived by the 77 PIE members is shown in Tables 8 and 9. Quite a high proportion of the group (about 17 per cent) had no real contact with their father since he died or became separated from the mother when they were very young. This is somewhat lower than the figure of 27 per cent absent fathers reported by Ingram (1979) but still very high compared with a figure of 6 per cent absent fathers found in a sample of 4,000 readers of the Sun newspaper who were representative of the British population as regards occupational status (Wilson, 1981).

Apart from geographical absence, the most common descriptions of the father were those that indicated some kind of psychological separation (remote/aloof/distant). Certain difficulties in relating to or identifying with the father are also suggested by the next most common descriptions (submissive/ weak/ineffectual, and strict/puritanical/intolerant). Altogether there were 62 negative descriptions of the father compared with only 18 positive descriptions. (Note, this adds up to more than 77 because some individuals gave mixed evaluations of their father.) Referring again to the Sun survey, which used similar questions with a ‘normal’ population, only 22 per cent gave negative descriptions of their father. This suggests that our paedophile sample did not enjoy very close relationships with their fathers compared with the rest of the population. However, it would be premature to arrive at any conclusions concerning the direction of cause and effect. Inability to relate to; the father could be a contributory cause of the sexual difficulty of our subjects. On the other hand, it is not impossible that the sex orientation of the son was partly responsible for the father’s coolness and hostility and the difficulty in communication.  


Descriptions of Father ( Numbers out of 77 giving each description)

            Absent (due to death or separation)                    13

            Remote, aloof, distant                                            18

            Submissive, weak, quiet, ineffectual                    15

            Strict, firm, puritanical, intolerant                        15

            Violent, temperamental, frightening                     7

            Otherwise objectionable (e.g. pompous,               7

          contemptuous, unpredictable, dirty, drunken)

            Loving, helpful, kind, caring                                 13

            Hardworking/respectable                                       5

            OK, normal                                                                 9  


Descriptions of Mother (Numbers out of 77 giving each description)

            Domineering, overbearing, strong-willed             15

            Overprotective, possessive, suffocating                 5

            Strict, narrow-minded, prudish                              15

            Otherwise objectionable (e.g. petty, interfering,  18

          inconsistent, hysterical, lesbian, prostitute)

            Religious (to excess)                                                   4

            Shy, introvert, inhibited, passive                             4

            Loving                                                                        15

            Otherwise caring (gentle, kind, warm, etc.)         12

            Well-balanced, OK, normal                                      7

            Practical, hardworking, intelligent                          7

            Active, energetic, ambitious                                     6

            Died when young (one suicide)                               6

            Raised by step or foster mother                                4  

Attitudes towards the mother were almost as negative as those towards the father. The most common complaints about mother fell into three main groups: 

(1) domineering, overbearing and strong-willed; (

2) overprotective, possessive and suffocating —frequently an adjunct of the first group; and 

(3) strict, narrow-minded, prudish, and overly religious. 

Adding descriptions in these categories with other negative opinions we find that no less than 57 subjects disliked their mother in some respect, whereas only 27 reported that they had enjoyed a loving or otherwise caring relationship with their mother. This is again a very much less favourable attitude towards the mother than that displayed by the Sun sample, where only 14 per cent expressed a dislike of their mother. It is perhaps also significant that the mothers of six paedophiles died when they were very young (one as a result of suicide) and that four were raised by a step or foster mother.

While the adequacy of the control data cited above might be questioned on various counts, it nevertheless seems that these paedophile subjects had on average a fairly bad relationship with their parents compared with the rest of the population. It is tempting to conclude from this that experience of the parents was in some way responsible for creating the paedophile preference in the children (e.g. lack of a satisfactory father model through geographical or psychological unavailability or insufficient tenderness on the part of the mother to permit imprinting upon adult women as sex objects). Some paedophiles even claim that they are seeking to reconstruct vicariously a more beautiful childhood experience by bestowing warmth and love on their child partners (whom they say are usually deprived in the same way that they were).

Such explanations are quite appealing in the current environmentalist zeitgeist within psychology, but there are at least three other types of explanation that cannot be ruled out with the present evidence. One is that the behaviour of the parents occurs as a reaction to the way in which they perceive their (paedophile) children as developing (i.e. a result rather than a cause of the paedophilia or the characteristics which predispose to it). For example, the father may become aloof or hostile towards his son because he regards him as unmanly or

otherwise inadequate, and the mother may become dominant and overprotective in order to compensate for the rejection of the father. Another possibility (which is in a way the most parsimonious) is that of a genetic connection between the parents and the children such that certain traits such as instability and social communication difficulty run in the family. Finally, the paedophiles may be generating negative descriptions of their parents in order to account for their condition to themselves or to others, i.e. as a kind of ‘excuse’ for their socially unacceptable preferences.

Unfortunately, it is not at present possible to choose among these differing explanations of the relationship between the paedophile preference and the way in which the parents were perceived and recalled. It is, however, quite striking that the pattern of weak and absent father combined with a dominant, overprotective mother that has so often been implicated in homosexuality and other sexual difficulties emerges once again within this group of subjects.  

Parents’ attitude towards sex  

Another finding that recurs frequently in the literature on sexual deviation and dysfunction is that of a sexually restrictive upbringing. Table 10 shows that this was also characteristic of the upbringing of our paedophile sample. The vast majority reported that their parents were secretive about sexual matters —that sex was hardly ever mentioned and that nudity and even physical embraces were rare phenomena in the home. Some said that they had ‘no idea’ what their parents’ attitude towards sex might be, since the topic was never raised. Others had no doubt that their parents held a strongly negative view of sex, which they described variously as Victorian, prudish, strict, severe, puritanical or based on religious taboos. One reported that the only advice he was ever given was ‘If you ever get a girl into trouble I’ll kill you’. Another said that his parents’ attitude was very moralising and full of warnings about V.D., cleanliness, etc.’. One mother slept separately from the father allegedly because he was ‘dirty’. One subject could not associate sex with his parents at all; the two ideas were apparently quite incompatible. Another subject recalled that he was once thoroughly spanked in childhood for lifting up a girl’s skirt. Only six of the 77 subjects described their parents’ attitude towards sex as positive or tolerant.  

TABLE 10  

Parents’ attitude towards sex (Numbers out of 77 giving description)

            Never or seldom mentioned (secretive)            44

            Victorian, prudish, strict, severe, taboo             26

            Based on religious premises                                  9  

Otherwise negative (e.g. naive, inconsistent,                 5


            Liberal, tolerant                                                       6  

  Although this paints a picture of very restrictive and puritanical attitudes towards sex in the home of the average paedophile, the same problems of interpretation that were discussed above arise here also. We don’t really have adequate control data that would allow us to say that this group perceived their upbringing as significantly different from normal. No doubt quite a high proportion of people with ‘healthy sexual adjustment’ also perceive their parents as old-fashioned and secretive with respect to sexual matters. There is also the problem that some of the paedophiles may be trying to explain or justify their unusual predilection to themselves or others by invoking childhood restrictions. Finally, we should consider the possibility that a few paedophiles call their parents restrictive and intolerant because they (along with most of society) disapproved of the paedophile and/or homosexual orientation of their son.

Whatever the interpretation, however, it does seem reason-able to conclude (1) that few of the paedophiles learned their / predilection or were directly encouraged in it by their parents, and (2) that a strict, religious upbringing is certainly no safeguard against the development of paedophile interests. Rather, the impression is that an overly negative attitude towards heterosexual playfulness may be one predisposing factor in the development of paedophilia (and perhaps other deviant sexual outlets).            

Early sexual experiences  

Table 11 shows a broad categorisation of the earliest remembered sexual experiences. Typically the first sexual experience was reported as occurring between the ages of six and eleven, although a few subjects recalled sexual feelings dating from the age of four, and there were one or two very late starters. One man claimed to have had only one sexual experience in his lifetime (an episode of sodomy that he did not enjoy), and another did not have his first ejaculation until the age of eighteen, and then it occurred while he was doing physical exercises.

By far the most common first experience was some form of homosexual exploration or masturbation, usually involving school-friends or peer-age neighbours. Next most common was heterosexual play or voyeurism (swapping looks) that sometimes involved a sister or female relative. A similar number of subjects cited solo fantasies and self-masturbation as their earliest sexual memory. Only six subjects gained their introduction to sex as the ‘victim’ of another paedophile, although this could well be a significantly higher proportion than normal. We do not have control data against which to compare this figure.

Although it is not uncommon for heterosexual men to pass through a phase of homosexual exploration with school-friends in childhood, one thing that was quite striking in the questionnaire responses was a tendency for the homosexual or heterosexual orientation of the subjects to correspond with the nature of their first sexual experience. The minority who reported a heterosexual initiation were much more likely to be heterosexually oriented paedophiles as adults. This probably represents an early manifestation of sex targeting set from childhood, though i1 could also reflect selective memory for childhood events that were experienced as particularly exciting and enjoyable.

Table 12 gives a sample of the verbatim answers, including some that were fairly typical and others that were thought interesting or illuminating in some way.  

TABLE 11  

Earliest remembered sexual experiences (Numbers out of 77  
declaring each type of episode)

            Homosexual masturbation (with approx. age peer)       35

            Solo masturbation                                                                11

            Heterosexual sex play                                                            13       

            Initiation by adult man                                                         6

            Other, or no answer                                                            12    


TABLE 12  

Earliest sexual experiences  
(Selected quotations)  

S2        ‘It was with a boy a year older than myself; he was 14. We just stripped naked and cuddled each other.’  

57        ‘Playing with dolls; telling them they must go to the lavatory and if they refuse they will be punished. A big erection. Age 4 years.’  

S11      ‘When I was approx. 11 years of age a boy played with my private parts which I enjoyed without knowing what he was doing and I was thereafter unable to continue this “enjoyment” on my own.  

513      ‘I used to contrive situations from the age of 14/15 where I would spank younger boys, often naked, though only once did this produce an orgasm. My sexual roots can be traced back as early as 8 however.’  

S15      ‘I never experienced ejaculation till 18 (when doing physical exercises). As a child I had no sexual relations of any kind with adults nor anyone else.’  

S16      ‘Only had one - sodomy with another man in my 20s. Not very enjoyable.’            

S20      ‘Typical, “you show me yours - I’ll show you mine” encounter with little girl up the street — had traumatic repercussions with parents as someone saw us.  

S38      ‘About 8 years old I was assaulted indecently by a man of 60, but I was a willing participant, and allowed it to go on for some years.  

S45      ‘At age 9 I went to a “children’s village” in Switzerland for two years. The “housefather” (British) invited me to his room, exposed himself and me, inviting mutual masturbation. Being ignorant of sex, I didn’t understand what he meant and he sent me away again.’  

S53      ‘I was 13 when I became attracted to a boy in my class. He was the smartest and the friendliest. My introversion and shyness prevented me from forming any real relationship or sexual activity.’  

S56      ‘Looking at the legs and petticoat of a young barmaid at our pub        not aware it was sexual. Protective feelings towards the youngest boys in prep. school when I was 10 or 11. Fantasy thoughts about them.’  

S68      ‘At 4 years getting frequent erections, when scolded, or on seeing policemen. Having penis examined by our doctor, “Uncle Jim” (a cousin of mother’s) in the presence of parents. At 13 encouraging other boys to “toss me off’.’  

S77      ‘When I was about 10 or 11 years old I fell in love with a boy at school. We kissed and cuddled only. First actual sex experiences at school at about 12 years old, masturbation in class with another boy nicknamed Kipper.’  

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