Friendship and love in positive memories of “pedophile” relationships

Rivas, T.
Type of WorkEssay
Publication LanguageEnglish

In my book Positive Memories, published this year, I present 132 cases of positive memories of erotic and platonic relationships and loose contacts between adults and minors, as recalled by the former minor. It is sometimes claimed that “pedophile” relationships are empty and meaningless and exclusively based on physical attraction. However, many of the memories of former children and teenagers involve friendship and love.

The terms friend(ship), friendly relationship, love, loving or tenderness are used explicitly in more than 50 of the cases included in my book (more than a third of all the cases presented), and affection is also implied in many other cases.

Here are 15 examples:

  • - Stefan used to love Ferdi a lot and he still continues to love him. He considers him a very good friend and they talk a lot. Ferdi supported him and taught him important things about people and life.  http://www.ipce.info/host/rivas/boys_men/stefan.htm

“Pedophilia” as an exclusively sexual phenomenon, is nothing short of a myth. This is also demonstrated by the four cases of platonic relationships included in my book.

T. Rivas, June 2011.